On Finding Humility

On Finding Humility

“Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less.” C.F. Lewis

Well. It is Friday, the weekend is almost upon us, and I’ve been thinking about some criticism I received earlier this week. While he did no say this directly, I’ve concluded that I have become somewhat conceited and narcissistic lately.

I think this has been shining through in my writings here at the blog as well. If so, that’s rather unfortunate, because I don’t see many conceited individuals who are actually successful at what they do. Often, people like this are self-deserving while unwilling to put in the effort required to get the job done. Big words won’t get you anywhere.

This message really got through to me yesterday when I was sitting at a cafe, listening to a guy telling a girl how he thought a nine to five job wasn’t for people like him. I certainly don’t prefer a nine to five job either, but I also know that I am not superman or inherently deserving of anything more than anyone else in this world. Sometimes, though, I am that guy at the cafe, telling people that I am above ‘menial’ labor. It goes without saying that I am not proud about that!

I know this successful guy in the danish television industry. He doesn’t ever brag, or even ever mention how successful he is to new people he meet. He is a really likable guy who always shows a genuine interest in everyone he meets. I am not at all accomplished myself, but that is the guy I’d like to be: the guy who doesn’t need external validation in order to feel good about himself. Instead, he takes that good feeling he already has inside of himself, and shares it with the world, making other people happy in the process.

I think most of us, deep down in ourselves, want to be that guy, but somehow our need to be ‘liked’ overshadows our sense of humility. At least for me it does. So I end up writing a bunch of self-centered posts, disregarding the fact that my way of living isn’t ‘better’ than any other way of doing so. Of course, it is the best way to live for me, and I am proud of that, but as I’ve found, there is a fine line between being confident and being arrogant.

I was wondering why I don’t get much interaction other than likes here anymore, but now I see that that’s because I haven’t been writing stuff people could relate to at all. So I’ll try to get back to my purpose here, and to writing posts that are worthwhile reading to others. Conveying honesty and humility are the keywords I want to strive for as a blogger. I hope I will succeed at both some day.

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Thank you so much for reading! 

Jakob Scheel

Jakob Scheel

Jakob is a Copenhagen-based Anthropologist who does Project Management by day and Photography by night.
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2 Replies to “On Finding Humility”

  1. Hi Beka, thanks for the comment! I just discovered this quote the other day, but it is already impacting me a great deal. I would love to hear how it has impacted your life if you’ve got the time!

    I’ve found that I have become too dependent on my ego lately, which is causing a lot of stumbling blocks for me. There is a fine line between confidence (which is necessary to succeed in life) and arrogance (which comes from being too focused on oneself). I therefore really love that quote a lot!

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